We are all different.
We come from different families. We belong to different tribes. We think differently, act differently, get excited about completely different things. And somehow, in this enormous world full of completely different human beings, we still manage to find like-minded people.
But sometimes finding them is really hard.
For me, being a Blue Star—I still laugh when I say that—has given me this funny little cast of characters that I think of as my friends. And yes, saying, “They’re my friends,” out loud makes me laugh. But they are.
And in their own way, they give me clues.
Clues about humanity. Clues about myself. Clues about how I want to live.
And one of the biggest clues is this: pay attention to what catches your attention.
If I see somebody doing something and immediately think, Oh my God, I want to try that, maybe I should.
Not because the person next to me is doing it. Not because everybody else thinks it’s cool. Not because it is the thing I’m “supposed” to be interested in.
Because something in me screamed, “That’s cool.”
Go toward that stuff.
Maybe one day I’m feeling artsy and suddenly I want to blow glass. Okay—find a glassblowing class. Go see what happens.
Maybe it jams. Maybe it absolutely does not.
Who cares?
You followed something inside yourself long enough to investigate it.
And maybe that is one of the ways we find our tribes.
Instead of asking, Where are my people? ask, Where are the things that make me feel alive?
Because your people might already be there.
They might be standing around a pottery wheel. Hiking a trail. Boxing. Painting. Gardening. Doing yoga. Making music. Blowing glass. Volunteering. Learning something completely bizarre that you’ve secretly wanted to try for ten years.
Go where you are interested.
Then look around.
Those people showed up because something inside of them said, I want to do this too.
There’s your first thing in common.
And then you learn from each other. You expand each other. One person introduces you to something you never knew existed, which leads you somewhere else, where you meet somebody else, who opens another door.
That’s living.
I think humans are actually really good at having these little instinctive sparks. We just don’t always follow them.
Instead, sometimes we follow everybody else.
You look around and there’s a whole group of people sitting somewhere drinking wine because apparently that’s what everybody decided adults are supposed to do—and half of them probably don’t even want to be there doing that shit.
How boring is that?
Come on, people. Elevate.
If something lights you up, investigate it.
If something makes you curious, move toward it.
If something makes the little kid inside you go, “WHOA. I want to do THAT,” listen.
You don’t have to know whether it’s going to become your passion, your career, your new best friend group, or something you try once and never do again.
That’s not the point.
The point is that it called to you.
And we’re all different.
So maybe we’re not supposed to find ourselves by doing what everyone else is doing.
Maybe we’re supposed to follow the tiny clues that belong specifically to us—and trust that somewhere along that trail, we’ll start running into our people.
